Wedding Planning Ceremony Script and Rehearsal Suggestions

Wedding Scripting and Rehearsal Suggestions

Gust Bassianotis

Wedding Ceremony Elements:

Wedding processinal or entrance of the bride and groom along with wedding party if applicable

Type of marriage consent: verbal or non-verbal
Welcome or Intoduction
Literature, love poetry, or religious wedding readings
Body of Ceremony – words and wishes offerd by the Officiant
Wedding Vows and Ring Exchange
Signing of Wedding Certificate
Wedding Tradition
Blessing if appropreate

About the Rehearsal

Every member of the Wedding Party (bride and groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, ring bearers, broom bearers, readers, musicians and any other participants) should meet at the site and "run through" the ceremony. If the site is unavailable, please simulate the conditions as closely as you can. I will be glad to research any traditions or cultures you choose. This is entirely your ceremony: Therefore, you should determine beforehand exactly which, if any, traditions you would like to follow, the way you want your attendants to line up, the manner in which you would like them to enter and exit, where you would like them to stand, walk or sit. Please impress upon all participants how important it is for them to attend the rehearsal and be on-time. If every one cooperates, there is no reason for a rehearsal to last longer than one hour. If you are choosing an outdoor venue, consider whether moving indoors would alter any plans.


If you know that someone cannot attend the rehearsal, appoint a stand-in who will participate in the rehearsal and explain the duties to the participant before the ceremony.

Wedding Coordinator

If you have decided not to hire a wedding coordinator, consider asking a favorite friend or relative, who is not a member of the wedding party, to assist you by coordinating the wedding and the rehearsal. On your wedding day, you do not want to be the only person who knows exactly how the wedding should flow. Having a coordinator will give you a chance to fully enjoy your wedding ceremony.

I will serve as you wedding rehearsal consultant for your wedding for an additional fee of $100.00 plus travel expences. If you choose to use my consulting expertise please inform me when you confirm your wedding date and time.
Bring Props
Please have on hand the actual or dummy props (Unity Candles, bouquets, rings, etc.) so that everyone can practice their actions.


It is especially important that any children who will participate in the ceremony attend the rehearsal. Please take care to speak with the children in a gentle and thoughtful manner and have props (i.e. a dummy flower basket with petals, a broom, a pillow, etc.) that will allow them to practice their actions. This may be the first time they "perform" in front of a group, let us make sure that it is fun and easy for them.


Weddings are highly emotional times for everyone and may bring up emotions that are difficult to handle. Please schedule your rehearsal so that there is a built in allowance for your participants to be a few minutes late or many minutes late depending on your guests! You know your family and friends -- If they are "never on-time," it is unlikely that they will be on-time for such an emotional occasion.

Take Care of Yourself

Do get enough sleep and eat healthy meals as your rehearsal and wedding approach. You will need to maintain your strength and perspective. Take time to visualize your rehearsal and wedding ceremony, so that you will be able to address any complications and calm yourself. No matter what happens, do your best to remain flexible, calm, and pleasant. Your spouse, attendants and guests want to celebrate with you. Being able to do so, is much more important than everything running exactly as you planned. Remember to enjoy these moments! They will never come again.

General Pre-Rehearsal Instructions

• Introductions of people as necessary.
• Tell everyone when to arrive for wedding and where they should go
o Men meet with officiant.
o Women meet at the Bride's room.
• Discuss when pictures will be taken.
• Advise that in case of mistakes, we will go ahead with wedding. Fake rings if necessary.
• No gum, please. Everyone relax and enjoy it. Be natural.
• Men hold their left hand over their right.
• Practice
o Go through once verbally.
o Go through once quickly.
o Go through as though it were real. (Don't say the whole ceremony.)
Step One -- Everyone in Place
Line up the wedding party where they will be standing for the wedding ceremony.
• Groom and his attendants on Officiant's left
• Bride and her attendants on Officiant's right
• The Bride and Groom face each other
• The Ring Bearer in front of the Groom's attendants
• Flower Girl(s) in front of the Bride's attendants

Step Two -- Practice the Recessional

After Officiant has declared the couple "husband and wife", they kiss and are announced as Mr. and Mrs. Smith
• Couple exits
• Flower girl and ring bearer follow.
• Attendants from each side meet in the center and walk out as couples.
• Bride's parents
• Groom's parents
• Bride's grandparents
• Groom's grandparents
• Or, each side of front row as an entire row, not person by person, since people are eager to congratulate the couple.

Step Three -- Seating the Guests

The ushers seat the family and honored guests at the announced time of the wedding. The front row is reserved for these special people. At the rehearsal you can practice escorting in these special guests. Remind the special people to wait in the back for their escort. Introducing them to their escort (usher) is all that's needed. 

Suggested order for special guests
• Grandparents of the groom
• Grandparents of the bride
• Parents of the groom
• Mother of the bride
Ushers are instructed as to whether they are to seat guests generally, or as "friends of the bride or friends of the groom" and whether or not they are to walk guests all the way to their seats, or motion them to empty seats.

Step Four -- Processional

Now the bridal party goes to the places from where they will enter on the wedding day.
Wedding party enters and takes places where they were in Step One.

  • Groom and his attendants walk in lead by Officiant.
  • Bride's attendants walking slowly, last outside bridesmaid first (processional music begins)
  • Maid of Honor walking slowly
  • Ring bearer   Suggestion: Use fake rings for the Ring Bearer. This avoids problems with dropping the rings or with the Ring Bearer refusing to relinquish the rings.
  • Flower girl (sometimes accompanied by Ring Bearer)
  • Music changes as the Bride prepares to enter
  • Officiant motions the guests to rise
  • Bride enters with escort on her right
  • As the Bride approaches the front, the Groom may take several steps toward her and her escort and offer her his arm. The Groom is on the Bride's right.
  • If the escort is to answer some question posed by the Officiant, he should remain standing until that question is asked, answer the question and be seated. The usual options for his reply are "I do" or "Her Mother and I do" or "On behalf of her family, I do."
  • If the escort is not to answer a question from the Officiant, he should be seated as soon as the Bride and Groom are standing before the Officiant.
  • Bride's escort takes seat in first row
  • Officiant performs the ceremony

The rings should be either on the Ring bearer's pillow or in the custody of the Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor. If carried by the two "best people," the Best Man should carry the Bride's ring on his little finger, and the Maid of Honor should carry the Groom's ring on her index finger or thumb.Don't let the Best Man put the ring in any pocket. Don't have either one of them carry the ring in a bag or box. Pockets, bags & boxes increase the chances for dropping and/or losing the ring. Of every 10 rings misplaced or lost at wedding time, 8 have been lost by the Maid of Honor. She has a big ring you have asked her to put on her relatively small finger.

For Maid of Honor and Best Man, have them put the ring on a finger, and then curl their fingers. Then the ring isn't going anywhere.

If rings are on the Ring bearer's pillow, the Best Man will remove them and give them to the Officiant one at a time with the Bride's ring first; or deliver both at the same time, at the option of the Officiant.

The Bride and Groom face the Officiant for the initial portion of the ceremony, then face each other and join both hands for the vows and rings. If the Bride has not already given her flowers to her Maid/Matron of Honor, do it now before joining hands.

You will have worked out with the Officiant what you are to say during the wedding ceremony. Your wedding ceremony script is due 3 weeks before your wedding rehearsal.

At the point of the Vows, you may simply respond to a question, or you may have decided to do a "repeat-after-me" statement with prompts from the Officiant.

For the exchange of rings, stop holding both hands, and change to holding each other's left hand. Each will be asked to repeat after the Officiant as they place the ring on their partner's hand. Rings never fit!! Don't make too much of a struggle out of it. No one can see whether the ring has cleared the last knuckle or not. Don't use oil or lotion, either. By the time you have to deal with the rings, it will just make things more difficult.

As you face the Officiant again, you can wiggle the ring on your own finger more easily than your partner could.
After the exchange of rings, Bride and Groom continue to face the Officiant until the end of the ceremony. Then face each other for the kiss. The Bride then gets her flowers back from her Maid/Matron of Honor, and you both turn to face the guests. Before the Recessional music starts, however, the Officiant may formally present to the two of you to your guests if you have arranged for him or her to do this. Then the recessional music begins.

Final Step -- Practice Recessional again

I Serve To Please And I Am Pleased To Serve

Planning Your Wedding Ceremony

First Contact

Usually couples reach out to me by email or telephone to make the initial contact. I offer a no cost, no obligation first meeting to get acquainted and see if the personality of the officiant is a good match. Most of my first or initial meeting is by Skype.  


At our first meeting I enjoy learning about the two of you and to hear your love story, how you met. I then review a basic ceremony outline with you to help in our discussion of your wedding vision. Upon signing our one page agreement, I begin putting together a working draft of your ceremony for you review not to restrict but to help in the planning. I also provide you with the county specific marriage license information to help you in obtaining the necessary legal documents.

Personal Attention

Throughout the planning period until the day of your wedding, you have unlimited access to ask questions, share feedback and seek advice.


Many venues provide the space and you are left to coordinate the rehearsal. So we offer rehearsal coordination upon request. Assistance at your rehearsal, assures you have consistent oversight from planning the ceremony all the way through the celebration itself. I am one of the busiest Wedding Officiants in Michigan so in order to facilitate your rehearsal you my need to decide on a non-Friday rehearsal at your wedding location.  Thursday rehearsals can be much more effective and allow you time on Friday to relax or attend to other details.

Day of Celebration 

I am not just prompt, but will arrive a minimum of thirty minutes early to inspect the venue and assure that all elements of the ceremony are in place. An average ceremony lasts about 20 minutes, but can be shortened or lengthened based on your selections.

Follow Up

Within 10 days of your wedding ceremony the original copy of your marriage license will be on file at the clerks office in your county.  I will also be available for future contact for marriage coaching or life transitions to support you and your family.